Hate That Shit

Empathy

noun

noun: empathy

1. the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.

   
   

   
   

   Empathy is a good thing naturally. Being able to understand another person's emotional state or situation is completely necessary to being human. Granted, even with all that, I hate that shit.

   
   

   
   

   Well, I hate how I use it. If someone is upset with me, I'm usually the one to take the blind plunge into empathy with the other person.

   "Look I get it..." is how the process starts.

   "Am I right?" is how it ends.

   
   

   It doesn't matter if my assumption was correct or not, there's only so many times someone can do that before it loses its latent charm and even its effectiveness. At an objective glance, it minimizes the person's feelings, leading it to a state of categorizing that no one wants to experience.

    

   In its initial use, I think its an awesome tool because it displays that you can be empathetic and depending how good you are at summing up your interpretation of what the other person is going through, it also shows how good you are as well.

    

   I'm so good at it. I've reflected on my use of it and I've come to the conclusion that....

    

   I hate that shit.

    

   I used to do it to my ex all the time and I still catch myself doing it, last night being a prime example. Sometimes, people need to vent and have their feelings come across as new and unheard, not rehashed and paraphrased by someone, especially if that person is the one causing the ill feelings!

   
   

   I let my hair grow out and cut a lot of carbs out my diet.

   Perhaps these things are taking me on a path towards enlightenment.

   I miss french fries though.

    

   Later Days, Longer Nights